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Hey Everyone...Hope you’re doing well. Have a good Thanksgiving? Mine was really good. Just hung out with the family and played with the nephews. Also took this week off work completely, had some fun, but it’s kinda ending on a sour note. I’m not feeling too well right now, and I’ve been stuck at home because my plans keep getting cancelled... That’s what caused me to write about the below...
... So I'm really getting sick of this "Rebound Syndrome" I'm been experiencing lately. I'm not talking about Marcus Camby's mad b-ball skills, I'm talking about this idea that someone recently got out of a relationship and is willing to be with someone else shortly after because they are vulnerable and not thinking straight. I know this isn't very flattering for my position, but read further and you'll see that I think my experiance has been pretty situational. Ever since I moved to Denver after school, I have been affected by this. I start getting involved with a girl and then BAM, it's over because of their perception of some other guy they were seeing (boyfriend, dating etc)... what the hell? Let me tell you the two things I really hate about this:
1) The "Rebound" concept itself - This does not make sense to me. In my view, if you don't want to be in a relationship, that's fine. But, if you are looking to get out of one, you can't sit around and mope around about the lost love (especially when you're the person who called it off). I will give you that you can be reminded of that person, but this shouldn't be an everyday/everything thing. Okay, ignoring that last thought, if you're not ready to be with someone again, THEN DON'T DO IT! You end up hurting the other person (i.e. me) more than you end up hurting yourself. Every single person needs to think about this and especially the other person before even thinking about being involved with anyone to any degree.
2) My Role in the situation/Why Me? - This is what I'm sick of. Why is it always me? Why do I keep find people who are experiencing the rebound syndrome (even though they may or may not be coming out of a relationship)? And why do they always move on and be fine afterwards? I am not a fan of being that intermediate step. I feel like I'm perfect for that step for a number of reasons. a) I'm a genuinely nice guy who won't screw anyone over (I'm a safe bet), b) I've been pretty open minded about relationships despite the fact that I've been screwed over more than once; I don't hold my past experiences against the new person I'm dating, and c) I'm patient and can wait for things to move. Last time I checked, this is something all women (and men) are looking for in a partner... so what the hell?
As you can tell, I'm not thrilled about the situation where I keep finding myself. I would think it would be something I'm doing to drive these women away since it keeps happening, but I can't figure out what (If you know, please inform me so I stop making the same mistake).
So what actions am I going to take? Well, for now, nothing. I'm not going to pursue anyone, I'm not going out of my way for anyone, I'm just doing what I want to do. If someone's interested, they better pursue me and let me know, because I'm not doing it anymore (since it seems to always end up the same way). I'm not closing the door on dating; I'm just making it and enter only right now for every girl out there.
